This blog is a collection of articles on the different kinds of topics that come up in therapy inspired by my experience as a therapist working alongside individuals on their journeys of change and growth. The articles are written in hopes of providing some useful information for you to explore on your own as well as food for thought on your journey of personal growth.
Many of us have a complicated relationship with food. Most of us have at some point been on a form of diet and for many more of us, the relationship we have with our bodies is a constant struggle between dissatisfaction, ignoring it, and paying a lot of (self-conscious and/or self-critical) attention to it. What might patterns of overeating or restrictive diets be reflecting about our emotional health?
So you’ve been wondering about starting therapy for some time and begun to think more about seeing a therapist. How do you go about it? Here are some commonly asked questions about therapy to help you get started with the process.
It’s easy to get lost with all the mental health resources available out there. Here are some links to help you begin navigating the resources available in Hong Kong.
When I meet clients for the first time, I always tell them a little bit about what to expect from me and how I work with them as a therapist. One of the things I talk about is how the therapeutic process will sometimes shift back and forth between the here and now and what has happened for them in the past.
We mostly think of addictions in terms of alcohol or drugs but addictions or compulsive behaviours come in many forms. Even ordinary behaviours and ways of thinking can be addictive if done obsessively or compulsively. Think of overeating, overworking, and constantly worrying that the worst will happen.
One of the reasons why anxiety in the workplace is so challenging is because in addition to the inner experience of worry, there is also an externally oriented concern about performance.
Even though our attachment style can be traced back to our earliest relationships, it isn’t set in stone and it isn’t the case that it cannot be changed. The extent to which we are able to become securely attached later in life is fortunately determined less by our early relationships and more by a combination of how aware we are of ourselves and strengthening the skills for healthy, secure attachments.
Studies have shown that while the majority of people (over 50%) find warm and mutually loving relationships come naturally to them, around 20% have anxious attachment styles and 25% have avoidant attachment styles.
One reason why therapy sessions sometimes look back to the past is because much of how we are as adults is grounded in the lessons we learned as children. The way we are in romantic relationships is no exception.
It speaks to the stigma that is still attached to anxiety that one doesn’t ‘have anxiety’ unless they fit the image of a nervous wreck, unable to lead an ambitious and successful life.
The quality of your breath in each moment can tell you a lot about how you are feeling. Because of our mind-body connection, our breath is a reflection of our body’s inner state.
The beginning of the year is typically a time of picking up new habits and giving up old ones. With the new year promising a fresh start, we are motivated to stick to the resolutions we have set ourselves.